Mommy, Can I Please Have Some Water?

You think the days of uninterrupted sleep are over until your seven-year-old crawls into bed with you and wakes you from a deep sleep, asking for a drink of water. She and the dog end up on your side of the bed, snoring like drunken sailors. I think I averaged about 3 hours of interrupted sleep that night. This is why we bought a refrigerator for the upstairs. We fill it with bottled water, seltzer water, non-alcoholic drinks (anything you want to keep cold, Tommy boy) so our kids can help themselves at any ungodly hour. Unfortunately, many a night this means mommy still needs to get up and fetch the water from this fridge because the kids are too tired or forgot about the fridge and daddy is such a deep sleeper he can’t even hear anything going on around him. My husband, as you will learn, is an incredible sleeper. And although I love him, and admire all he does in life (including his own laundry), I have issues when it comes to him getting more sleep than I do. I, quite frankly, act like a witch when he tells me he only got 6 hours of sleep and needs to go to bed extra early the next night to make up for it. Six hours of uninterrupted sleep to me is a gift. A gift I tell you.

 

Monster Headache

Have you ever had a migraine? The kind of headache that’s so gnarly, it feels like something Sigourney Weaver tried to catch in the movie Alien hatched on one side of your head and escaped through your forehead? I never used to get bad headaches, even when I was pregnant, but since I turned 40, I feel one emerging at least twice a month. And ironically, it’s not so long after I have an amazingly healthy meal. Go figure. Although I’m not hanging over the toilet, I do feel like cow dung. I woke up with my head throbbing the other day. I tried hiding it from my kids and husband, pretending everything was hunky dory while I fixed breakfast and got everyone out the door. I tried working, but ended up moaning over my keyboard, holding my head in my hands. Then I remembered something a friend told me. “The best way to get rid of a migraine is to drink caffeine or eat something sugary.” Hello, have you met me? I’m all over that advice. I shoved my face with chocolate covered raisins. Then a piece of fruit. Then chocolate chips with the chocolate covered raisins. Then a cup of green tea. Within an hour, I was working, writing, carpooling, running errands, walking with my dog and kids and making dinner. Like I need another reason to stress eat, right?

Just for fun, here’s the trailer to the movie Alien

 

Point well taken, Louis

I have to share this link on being a not-quite-perfect parent from the perspective a funny and self-deprecating father 1) because I adore this stand-up comedian (you may have heard of Louise CK?) 2) because this is such an unconventionally (tame) appropriate piece of advice from Louis that can’t really be translated without me watering down his humor or butchering the punch line (which I have a tendency to do according to my loving husband, the devoted father of my children).

Link to Louis CK on fatherhood.

Mom-entary lapse of reason

As a mom, I look forward to taking my kids out to dinner. Wait, did I just say that? Please know it has taken me and my husband YEARS to do this without leaving a restaurant early, apologizing profusely for the pile of crumbs left on the floor, and/or paying for the check while one of us deals with two restless kids in the parking lot. (We’ve been doing a lot of take-out and home dinners through the years to avoid these awkward moments.) So, fast forward to 2011. My daughter Sarah is 7 (going on 17). I treated Sarah and a few of her friends for an impromptu dinner the other night at a low-key diner. Let me repeat that this was impromptu, meaning my brain didn’t have enough time to register exactly what it was that I had agreed to do. (Something that happens every time I go shopping with my kids, which is another story.) The dinner started our innocent enough. Four little girls were drawing quietly and politely swapping stories about their teachers, recess and pop songs, etc. Let’s jump to the part where we ordered beverages. We don’t allow soda in our house. (Only mommy’s and daddy’s emergency supply of Diet Coke for those extra sleepless nights.) This was a special back-to school treat, so I allowed it. They have this thing called Blue Blast at this particular chain, which is a syrupy mixture of cotton candy flavoring and lime soda. Blue Blast is the equivalent of liquid speed for beings under 4 feet tall. They each had a plastic cup filled with the stuff. Big blue mistake. It hit their brain 30 seconds after it reached their lips. They were overstimulated on the stuff, not listening, talking loudly, jumping in their seats, giggling, not finishing their meals and causing us to get dirty looks. I hinted to the waitress that we were ready for the check before their blue mustaches even had a chance to dry. I had them buckled in their car seats and in their driveways within one and a half KidzBop songs. As soon as we got home, my daughter was running around the house with our Golden Retriever chasing him as he chased his tail. My husband looked at me and says, “What in the heck did you do with our daughter?” I had never seen her so hyped up. I had to give her two cups of water and a shower and it was another 45 minutes before she finally crashed. She passed out as soon as her head hit the pillow. For the love of blue food coloring and coca cola, I will never let my kid have this stuff again!

Twas the Night Before Christmas

Twas the night before Christmas, when all through the house Not a creature was stirring, not even a mouse. The stockings were hung by the chimney with care, In hopes that St Nicholas soon would be there.

The children were nestled all snug in their beds, While visions of sugar-plums danced in their heads. And mamma in her ‘kerchief, and I in my cap, Had just settled our brains for a long winter’s nap.

When out on the lawn there arose such a clatter, I sprang from the bed to see what was the matter. Away to the window I flew like a flash, Tore open the shutters and threw up the sash.

The moon on the breast of the new-fallen snow Gave the lustre of mid-day to objects below. When, what to my wondering eyes should appear, But a miniature sleigh, and eight tinny reindeer.

With a little old driver, so lively and quick, I knew in a moment it must be St Nick. More rapid than eagles his coursers they came, And he whistled, and shouted, and called them by name!

“Now Dasher! now, Dancer! now, Prancer and Vixen! On, Comet! On, Cupid! on, on Donner and Blitzen! To the top of the porch! to the top of the wall! Now dash away! Dash away! Dash away all!”

As dry leaves that before the wild hurricane fly, When they meet with an obstacle, mount to the sky. So up to the house-top the coursers they flew, With the sleigh full of Toys, and St Nicholas too.

And then, in a twinkling, I heard on the roof The prancing and pawing of each little hoof. As I drew in my head, and was turning around, Down the chimney St Nicholas came with a bound.

He was dressed all in fur, from his head to his foot, And his clothes were all tarnished with ashes and soot. A bundle of Toys he had flung on his back, And he looked like a peddler, just opening his pack.

His eyes-how they twinkled! his dimples how merry! His cheeks were like roses, his nose like a cherry! His droll little mouth was drawn up like a bow, And the beard of his chin was as white as the snow.

The stump of a pipe he held tight in his teeth, And the smoke it encircled his head like a wreath. He had a broad face and a little round belly, That shook when he laughed, like a bowlful of jelly!

He was chubby and plump, a right jolly old elf, And I laughed when I saw him, in spite of myself! A wink of his eye and a twist of his head, Soon gave me to know I had nothing to dread.

He spoke not a word, but went straight to his work, And filled all the stockings, then turned with a jerk. And laying his finger aside of his nose, And giving a nod, up the chimney he rose!

He sprang to his sleigh, to his team gave a whistle, And away they all flew like the down of a thistle. But I heard him exclaim, ‘ere he drove out of sight, “Happy Christmas to all, and to all a good-night!”

The story remains the same

Speaking of Young and the Restless, my best friend and I used to watch this soap opera in the summer. We would come home from the neighborhood pool and watch an episode while we ate toasted cheese sandwiches. (All while when our moms were at work.) I caught 15 minutes of it at the doctor’s office the other day and I can tell you, the story line has not changed much in 25 years.

Does this clip from Young and the Restless (1984) bring back any memories?

Sound asleep by 7:45 p.m.

OK, so I fell asleep at an embarrassingly early hour last night (while reading a bed time story to my daughter) and then got up in the middle of the night, causing me to have a terrible time falling back to sleep.  This mother is not done venting on this subject. The fact that my husband needs and often gets exactly eight hours of sleep a night blows my mind. If I could get that many hours of sleep a night, every night, I would honestly not know what to do with myself. I would probably start another consulting business or patent all the ideas that have come to me when I was up at night, trying relentlessly to get back to sleep. I recently was blessed with seven hours of straight sleep. The next morning, I went for a run, did laundry, made homemade pancakes for my kids, made their lunches, worked several billable hours (without checking Facebook once) and didn’t feel like dog poo all day. Uninterrupted sleep: what a concept.