So I finally got together with some dear girlfriends I hadn’t seen in a long time recently. Two live out of state, so it was like a lunar eclipse. We all happened to be in Rhode Island at the same time, so all the stars aligned, and we knew we had to plan it. It was a riot catching up and venting together. In a matter of five hours, we consumed an entire wagon wheel of brie, two insane-in the-membrane cheese dips, a gallon of cut fruit, some wine, chocolate and a quiche the size of my face. It took about 20 emails, a few Twitter messages, several phone calls and some major back-and-forth schedule-maneuvering to make it happen. But we did it. We didn’t cancel. We didn’t re-schedule. We didn’t let our own crazy lives, from toddlers to teens, get in the way. We made it happen. We didn’t let another year go by without catching up. We knew we had to take advantage of this precious window of sanity-by-brunch opportunity. And boy, did we have some nearly pee-in-your-dressy-jeans moments.
My husband recently got together with a dozen buddies for a Patriots game guys’ night. I swear it took them one email and they were all tailgating. It’s so unfair. The sad part is, had I whipped up a get-together this fast, I’d build up enough of my own manufactured mommy guilt to fill Providence Place Mall.
OK. I adore all my women friends. But why in the name of Jennifer Garner is it so hard to plan things with other women? I realize there are times when schedules get crazed. When we have no free time. When kids get sick. And the sitter’s out of town and our guy isn’t available to watch the kids. But I feel like we could all use a little kick in the rear in this department. Can I get an Amen?
Sounds good Jackie! I am up for a meet-up! LOL! =)
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Amen! It is SO hard. And I was so excited to go out to dinner with the Rhody bloggers a few weeks ago (I even PLANNED the dinner!), and then I got the flu. Ugh. So glad you were able to get together with your girlfriends, though!
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I was there, Jane! You did an amazing job. I’m so sorry you got sick! We missed you so much, but had a lot of fun in your honor!
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WOW What a treat to see everyone! You are right that women are prone to really overdoing the planning thing. I see this in the classrooms planning holiday parties – I kid you not there will be 40 e-mails discussing food and an activity. It drives me nuts when I could do it in 3 e-mails and no time at all. 🙂
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So true. We take everyones need before our own! We make sure everyone is Okay before ourselves. Glad to hear you had a good time:)
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I think that as women, we take on the responsibility of ensuring that our husbands and children have something to “do” while we’re trying to have a little fun. Husbands don’t do that – they just say “I’m going here on this day with so-and-so.” No thought as to what we’ll do – or where the kids will be.
We should be making an effort to put our needs out there – to ensure they’re being met!
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Thanks, girls! OK, so I say we plan a get together! It may take us a year …but let’s give it a try!!?? Anyone up for brunch in October??!! 😉
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I’d be up for that! 🙂
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🙂
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For real!! It’s virtually impossible to get a group larger than two together! Glad to hear that you would make it work and had a great time with your girls!
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You are so right! It’s never easy to plan things with my girlfriends, but when we do get together it’s always a fabulous time. Glad you got to have that brunch, sounds like it was a blast 🙂
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So true! I am the worst! In my heart I always wnat more girlfirend time, but sadly it always gets pushed to last place on the priority list- yet I always fee so much better after I spend time with the girls!
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Amen Mama! Its like moving a mountain! Glad you had a great time with your gal pals. Nothing like it. 🙂
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Amen!! It takes effort by everyone involved, slam the door on mommy guilt, and just do it! You feel so good after.
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It is ridiculously hard, especially with those who do not value the importance of having your own time (or hubby does not)…..aka strong Mommy guilt
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Girlfriend get togethers are total sanity savers! It is hard to walk out the door and leave that mommy guilt behind though, I always feel the same way, but these get togethers are critical!
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I know its crazy isn’t it, we let everything else get in the way before our own needs. Totally more ‘me’ time for 2013 x
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Amen to that Jackie! i also find it really hard to get together with other women! i try my darnest to get together with my girlfriends and it’s like pulling teeth a lot of the time – when i was a kid, my mom would be across the street w/her friends/neighbors having coffee a few days a week. i’m lucky if i see my friends for coffee once a month.
we need our girl time.
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this is so true. i am going to make a concerted effort to improve this in 2013!
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